Friday, July 19, 2013

The solution to your problem is more feminism

I wrote an essay on being a straight white male feminist for the Good Men Project. If you're reading this blog, you probably already knew that.

I'm proud of this short essay and would like it spread far and wide. If you are willing to share it, please do so. I'm also willing to engage in debate and discussion about.

If you wade into to comment thread, you'll see a few, "right on!" comments. Then there are a few thoughtful commentaries or questions. My favorite was asking me whether I found my "male" self ever at odds with my "feminist" self. I talked about the ways that I instinctively buy into purity culture in terms of parenting my daughter, a subject I may return to more fully later. Then there were the men's right's folks.

I've never argued with them, and in my experience, arguing requires practice. I know how to argue about history, about disability, about Catholicism, about voting rights, about the needs for regulations, about all kinds of subjects. This was a new one and I'm not sure I did as well as I should. The laments are well known - it's so hard to be man; so much is expected of a man; men always lose in divorce courts; boys are having more trouble in school; men are doomed; men can be abused too; gender discrimination runs in all directions so feminism isn't relevant; patriarchy doesn't exist. The MRA folks have a litany and they quickly showed up.

On advice from a friend, I started reading Amanda Marcotte. This 2011 essay in particular worked well for me: The Solution to MRA Problems? More Feminism.

Here's the key piece:


They’re so wrong about everything, they’re wrong even when they’re right. Some of their observations of the world correspond with reality, but when they attempt to analyze it through the “blame feminism” lens, they get all turned around. Usually what annoys them stems not from feminism, but from sexism, especially when it comes to inflexible gender roles. Ironically, then, the solution to the problems they manage to correctly identify is … more feminism. I pulled together a sampling of examples to show how this works.

This is the challenge, some of the gripes from MRA are, in fact, true. But they fail to assess causality or the pathways out of the morass. In almost every case, the solution according to Marcotte is ... more feminism.

In my comment thread, one particular poster (and Good Men Project essayist on the topic) talked about divorce court. It's probably true that men have a tougher time getting custody than women, although I've been reading some counter evidence. It's probably true that the "tender years" doctrine that once automatically assigned custody to women (with men having to pay support, which is what irks the MRA), filtered through the second-wave feminist movement. The alternative was seeing women either isolated from their children or abandoned by their children's fathers. But if you want to solve this problem, the solution is not to rant about how those feminist courts are oppressing men, but to advocate for more feminism.

Courts see mothers as the natural primary parent because of rigid gender norms that associate child-rearing as women's work. Take the feminist position that child-rearing is gender neutral, make it stick, and this changes. Advocate for universal gender-neutral parental leave at birth or adoption. Make sure men who want flex time are not seen as un-manly and discriminated against in the workplace. All of these are feminist positions.

So I'm grateful to Marcotte and ready to wade back into the fray. And if you have a problem with that, well, the solution to your problem is ... more feminism.

Thursday, July 18, 2013

Straight White Male Feminism

I have a new essay at "The Good Men Project" on why I call myself a feminist and what it means to me. Please go read it there and share it across your networks. This is my first publication there and I'd like it to do well.

In many ways, it's really an essay about patriarchy.

Wednesday, July 17, 2013

Jenny McCarthy and Fad/Fear-Based Parenting

New essay online, with a slightly shifted take from my earlier one. I move beyond the vaccine issue, as important as it is. Here, I focus on McCarthy's epistemology and the ways that parents, buffeted by fear-based marketing, also encounter information and the consequences of giving McCarthy this big new platform.

The essay is here.

Some sections I like:

Parents are more likely to jump at "fads" rather than sticking to "evidence-based" parenting. It's hard to blame them for this characteristic -- they are primed to be afraid.

Parents are told that unless they buy a given product, their child will get sick, learn too slowly, fail to flourish, or even die. Being a parent requires so many leaps of faith on a day-to-day basis. We just hope and pray that we're getting it mostly right.
 
When someone claims to have answers, especially someone with the intelligence and charisma of a Jenny McCarthy, parents are easy targets.
And

Enter Jenny McCarthy, a woman who evangelizes. She jumps at fads, hunches, intuitions and really bad ideas. She believes them. She makes them hers. Then she builds institutions to promote them with the full-throated roar of a new convert.

McCarthy has profited handsomely from her outrageous views. She is intelligent, funny and persuasive. She writes books that sell very well. Her organizations throw successful events. She is a tireless promoter of her ideas. And now she's a host on "The View."

What idea will she seize on next? What dangerous fad will she claim needs more study? How many parents, at home in the morning, will be persuaded? I'm deeply disappointed that Barbara Walters and ABC have decided to let us find out the answers to these troubling questions.
Let me know what you think. Thanks.

P.S. I'm still really angry at ABC and The View.

McCarthy's current positions on vaccines - from Rosie

I was asked to come up with McCarthy's most recent clear statement about vaccines. This is from 2011, but is the best response I could find in terms of her position on vaccines today. Anyone have anything directly from her (not her organization) that's more recent?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kt170kLc29U

Transcript:



JM: “Some children can’t handle all those shots. We’re talking about those kids. We’re an intelligent group of parents that know that we need a vaccine schedule. But, we think it’s overloaded. In 1983, the shot schedule was 10. Now we’re up to 38. Do we need Hepatitis B on the first day in life? No! What we’re saying is let’s move it. Let’s test the kids who can’t these types of assaults so early in life. We need a Plan B schedule. Slow it down.”
Rosie: Because so often kids on the spectrum have compromised immune systems, they have problems gasto-intestanally, right?
JM: “There’s a lot of kids who can’t methylate, which is detox, which is what everyone figures that a body can do. So what winds up happening is they become, their immune systems become overloaded. And they develop seizures, like Evan did. So we’re protected those kids who can’t handle them.”
Rosie: And I think that that’s a very valid statement to make.
JM: Me too!
Rosie: But you see people getting really crazy! Black and white!
JM: That’s it, and they can’t differentiate, and it screws up what we’re really trying to do here, protect these kids.


One note to Rosie: If kids on the spectrum have compromised immune systems, then they need everyone else to get vaccinated.
 



Tuesday, July 16, 2013

Islam and Flexibility

In the standard American Islamophobic (or at best, ignorant) discourse, Islam is a harsh religion with strict rules of conduct. Sharia, or "Sharia law" as it is mislabeled, is represented as an intensely strict set of rigid rules that all Muslims must follow or face grievous penalties.

This, of course, is completely backwards. Sharia is a system for devising laws, a system with flexible, interpretive, methodologies built in. Islam is de-centered, not hierarchical, with many voices performing these acts of interpretations, advising Muslims how to live, and issuing fatwas to address new problems. This was true during Islam's medieval past. It's true now.

A case in point is a splendid note from Marya Hannun in The Atlantic. She writes about Muslims who want to fast for Ramadan, but who live by the Arctic circle where the sun doesn't set in the summer. They cannot eat until the sun sets. What to do?
This week, with the start of Ramadan, Muslims from Indonesia to Michigan began fasting from sunrise to sunset in observance of one of the religions' primary holidays. But what happens in places where the sun never sets because the country is too far north? For many, this particular dilemma is a relatively new one, only apparent over the last two years. Since the month of Ramadan is pegged to the lunar calendar, it rotates on a yearly basis. The last time the holiday fell this deep into the summer months was nearly three decades ago in the mid 1980s, a time when few Muslim communities could be found above the Arctic Circle. But with Muslims from Somalia, Iraq, and Pakistan -- to name a few places -- increasingly immigrating to countries like Sweden, Norway, and Finland, the ethical dilemma posed for them by the endless summer days has become very real.
The solution is to be flexible, rather than rigid.

As Hassan Ahmed, a Muslim resident who came to the city from Somalia and works at the Islamic Center of Northern Norway told me, "the sun doesn't set. For 24 hours it's in the middle of the sky." Faced with the impossibility of adhering to the sunrise/sunset rule, Tromsø's Muslims must find alternative ways of determining when to fast. "We have a fatwa," or clerical decree, Ahmed said. "We can correspond the fast to the closest Islamic country, or we can fast with Mecca." 
It's just a simple little anecdote that demonstrates flexibility.

Flexibility isn't always so good, from my perspective. The de-centered nature allows radicals to write fatwas enabling terrorism and suicide attacks, even though suicide seems so clearly forbidden by scripture. Disturbingly, both the American Islamophobes and radical Muslims want to present Islam as rigid. They both want to argue that the only real Muslims are the violent, misogynist, terrorists, and those who support them. But they're wrong. They have always been wrong. The flexibility is built in.

Happy Ramadan (ongoing until the 7th).

Friday, July 12, 2013

Nuancing Jenny McCarthy (long post)

One of the challenges of opinion writing, and one of the reasons I started this blog, is that one has to compress complex issues into 800-1200 words. Even in this age of virtual publishing, that seems about the right length. As a result, sometimes things get compressed. With the blog, I can expand on sub-themes that interest me and include text I cut.

1.On multiple social media sites, including this blog, I've received a certain amount of pushback on the following sentence, "Religion and science equally fuel this kind of fear-mongering and reckless parenting."

It was not my intention here to raise a false equivalence between religion and science, but to evoke a true equivalence between the epistemology behind certain kinds of leaps of belief. The Neumanns, inspired by vague religious sentiment, made a leap to believe that this time they ought to just pray, SURE that it was true. The child died. McCarthy and other anti-vaxxers followed a similar process in leaping to their beliefs. There's something deeper here about the human psyche and how we come to hold our beliefs.

I actually spent a few minutes chatting with a theologian this morning about how Catholics handle faith healing. He talked about the way that Catholics believe in grace and the possibility of miracles, but that grace proceeds from nature and from works. So if you want grace, you pray, but you also do whatever you can do in the world. This is true for medicine, but also for work, love, sports, whatever.

2. I also received a number of emails and comments from people wanting to engage in thoughtful, data-driven, discussions about vaccines from a negative viewpoint. One quoted some studies that related the cost of the HPV vaccine (it's not cheap) to the numbers of cervical cancer cases prevented, and suggested that the numbers weren't good. Did we really want to spend X million dollars per case prevented, the commentator asked? This starts to take you into tricky ethical ground, but was at least a reasonable place to have a discussion.


The more complex comment came from L., who asked me not to use her name. She seems to have had a debilitating reaction to a flu vaccine that has been diagnosed as CIDP and MMN (Chronic Inflammatory Demyelinating Polyneuropathy - MMN is a Multi Focal Motor Neuropathy). It may be life-long and it may take very expensive drugs to control it. She has serious questions: Was this in fact caused by the flu shot? Is her predilection for the allergic reaction genetic, so should she not get any offspring vaccinated? Why, she asks, is research on her kind of reaction not being done by outsiders as opposed to industry scientists? She talked about "vaccine court" and its problems. In short, this was a powerful email.

I responded as follows:
Dear L.

I'm very sorry to hear about the medical ordeal you are going through; it's terrible to be so abruptly thrust from a "normal" life into the world of disability. It shocks one's sense of self and forces all kinds of recalibration of meaning and value. At least, that's my experience.

That said, if what you want is nuance and more study, which seems entirely reasonable, Jenny McCarthy is not your friend. She's a peddler of  fear and quackery - and if from time to time she says something reasonable about further study, it's drowned out by the roar of mis-information.

Let me show you a paragraph I had to cut from the essay for space reasons, and because I didn't want to spend all my time lambasting her absurd statements.


Here’s an example of McCarthy’s arguments. In an article on CNN, writing with (now-ex) husband Jim Carrey, she trumpets her son’s cure of autism. They write, “Evan has been healed to a great extent by many breakthroughs that, while perhaps not scientifically proven, have definitely helped Evan and many other children who are recovering from autism.” Later, they specify, “We believe what helped Evan recover was starting a gluten-free, casein-free diet, vitamin supplementation, detox of metals, and anti-fungals for yeast overgrowth that plagued his intestines.” Finally, they wonder why doctors haven’t come to study their miracle boy, and so begins the conspiracy, “So where's the cavalry? Where are all the doctors beating down our door to take a closer look at Evan? We think we know why they haven't arrived. Most of the parents we've met who have recovered their child from autism as we did (and we have met many) blame vaccines for their child's autism. We think our health authorities don't want to open this can of worms, so they don't even look or listen.” McCarthy repeated this message on air and in print and through her charity, Generation Rescue, again and again and again. Then, in 2010, she began to admit that maybe Evan didn’t have autism, maybe vaccines weren’t to blame, but vaccines needed to be studied and she began suggesting alternative schedules (based, again, on no data).
These things are just not true. If you follow the link, you'll see she just makes the claim that autism is environmental. That Evan's autism was caused by vaccines. That diet and vitamins cure him. That there's a government conspiracy. This is just a useful catch-all of her errors (I suspect she believes them, so I don't use the word lies), but can be found again and again and again on the web. So now she's inventing alternate schedules of vaccines, because, well, because she's a believer. Did you read the link off my article about parents of kids with autism feeding their children bleach?

That's the culture that McCarthy enabled.

http://scienceblogs.com/insolence/2012/07/24/another-cell-therapy-quackery-for-autism-rears-its-ugly-head/ - bleach
http://justthevax.blogspot.com/2013/07/the-view-of-jenny-mccarthy.html - McCarthy hosts a conference for quacks and frauds: Including Wakefield.


So yes, she's backed off some statements, but she's right at the front of the line to inspire "cures."

McCarthy creates a world in which you and your cause are harmed - because any attempt by someone smart and reasonable, like you, to say that we should look at vaccines more carefully places you on the side of the snake-oil salesmen like Wakefield, and the celebrity enablers like McCarthy. Remember - Wakefield was trying to sell an alternate vaccine, so fabricated his study in order to profit, and now children are catching measles again ... and he's still doing it. And it's true, perhaps, that I'm guilty of writing this article without shades of grey. I do believe in shades of gray, I do believe that anything is on the table to be studied.


So if McCarthy would like to publicly and repeatedly say that there is no relationship between vaccines and autism, that she is deeply sorry for all the children who got sick, and died, as a result of her celebrity sponsorship of Wakefield and the like, and work to undo all her damage, then sure, maybe she could be useful in calling for more nuance.

But right now, I think she's a menace. And she's hurting your cause too.
This is my take-away on point #2 - if you want to have a more nuanced discussion about vaccines, to inspire research on their side-effects, to work to make them safer, to change the regulatory system, and so forth, then Jenny McCarthy is your enemy. You have to boot her off your island so that we can have this discussion without the quack scientists, Wakefield and his backers, the snake-oil salesmen, and all the others, in the room. Because if they are in the room, you will be lumped with them.

Maybe that's not fair, but that's the way it is.

Thursday, July 11, 2013

Jenny McCarthy - Keep her off the view

I wrote an advocacy piece discussing Jenny McCarthy and keeping her off "The View."

The essay is here.

If you agree with me, please share the essay on all your media formats. This needs to get out there.

Please write ABC a polite note suggesting McCarthy is not appropriate for The View. Here is the ABC feedback page. Phil Plait has a nice template you can borrow.

If you don't agree with me - why not? I welcome thoughtful discussion (though will quickly moderate trolling right off the site). Please use a name, even a pseudonym, if you want to comment, so we have something to call you.

Thank you.

Sunday, July 7, 2013

Marion Bartoli does not win "Best Dressed" award

Some of my friends, fellow parents, felt I was overreacting when I got angry at my daughter receiving a "best dressed" award from her pre-school. She's a pretty girl; she dresses in fun ways; they were celebrating that. Some girls are just girly and there's no problem there.

I replied by talking about the overwhelming focus on female appearance and the association of value with appearance, and the way it tracks females from birth to death, often with serious consequences. I then wrote about it for CNN.

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Marion Bartoli won Wimbledon and the BBC announcer, Inverdale, said:

"“Do you think Bartoli’s dad told her when she was little, ‘You’re never going to be a looker? You’ll never be a [Maria] Sharapova, so you have to be scrappy and fight.'"

Social media erupted.

Inverdale added, "“We poked fun, in a nice way, about how she looks … but Marion Bartoli is an incredible role model.”

The BBC abjectly apologized later.

Both Bartoli and her father handled the situation with class.

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I mean, seriously, she just won Wimbledon, and so immediately her looks are brought into the equation.

This is why I'm a feminist.

Friday, July 5, 2013

CNN piece on the papal canonizations

The full essay is here. It was written (by request of CNN) in response to Pope Francis' announcement that he would canonize both Pope John-Paul II and John XXIII this year in one ceremony. The latter one caught most people by surprise (including me).

So what's going on in Rome? I turn back to the lessons of the history: Decisions about sanctity almost always involve considerations about local contexts and contemporary needs. John Paul II's sainthood has been promoted by many of the more conservative elements within the Catholic world. John XXIII, however, is something of a hero to more liberal groups because of his sponsorship of Vatican II.

Perhaps in linking these two pontiffs, Pope Francis is performing yet another act that emphasizes the continuity and the connections among Catholics of all kinds, a theme that has dominated his papacy so far.


Thursday, June 27, 2013

Paula Deen and the Myth of the Happy South


WARNING: OFFENSIVE LANGUAGE


The most damning moment about race in the Paula Deen transcript took place during a long discussion about her brother’s wedding plans. Deen had been to a restaurant in “Tennessee or North Carolina or somewhere” that had an extremely professional wait-staff of middle-aged black men, dressed in white jackets, black trousers, and black bow ties. She was asked if she had referred to them as “niggers,” by accident, and she said, “No, because that’s not what these men were. They were professional black men doing a fabulous job.”  As others have noted, the answer suggests that she would quite possible refer to non-professional black men, or black men not doing a fabulous job, as “niggers.”  Such an attitude would not be atypical for American white southerners, or indeed for many other people around the country of many different races, but still exposes a celebrity like Deen to charges of racism. 

To be fair to the plaintiff, Lisa Jackson, who is suing Deen, claimed the celebrity chef said, “Well what I would really like is a bunch of little niggers to wear long-sleeve white shirts, black shorts and black bow ties, you know in the Shirley Temple days, they used to tap dance around.”  I actually find that kind of unlikely, but it’s anything is possible.

I think the focus on racial epithets, while understandable, misses a complex subtext. In memoriam, we’re still fighting the Civil War.

Perhaps I should have written, “The War of Northern Aggression,” the oddly complex mouthful  that many southerners have adopted as their preferred terminology (the Wikipedia entry on varied names is pretty useful).  The name focuses on the north as the aggressor, the wrong-doer, with the south simply defending themselves and their “way of life.” The incoming head of the N.R.A., for example, talks about the war of Northern Aggression as a reason people need firearms.

But Paula Deen calls it the Civil War. Here’s a long excerpt:

Q Do you recall using the words "really southern plantation wedding"?
A Yes, I did say I would love for Bubba to experience a very southern style wedding, and we did that. We did that.
Q Okay. You would love for him to experience a southern style plantation wedding?
A Yes.

The deposition continues:

Q   Why did that make it a -- if you would have had servers like that [the black waiters], why would that have made it a really southern plantation wedding?
A Well, it -- to me, of course I'm old but I ain't that old, I didn't live back in those days  but I've seen pictures, and the pictures that I've seen, that restaurant represented a certain era in America.
Q Okay.
A And I was in the south when I went to this restaurant. It was located in the south. 
Q Okay. What era in America are you referring to?
A Well, I don't know. After the Civil War, during the Civil War, before the Civil War.

Deen has fully embraced the romanticized version of American southern history. The blacks worked in the house, serving the whites, with great professionalism and care. In her praise for the black waiters, she reveals herself a player in the ongoing struggle to re-write American southern history as anything but a slave-based empire.

This vision requires admitting that slavery existed, which Deen does later in the transcript, but suggesting that it really wasn’t all that bad, that blacks who worked for good masters found life pleasant as part of an extended family. This narrative embraces the myth of the paternalistic system that yes, involved slavery, but the slavery was so much better than in other parts of the world. And it’s true – in the Carribean, where slaves were imported regularly, conditions were worse. In the American south, you needed slaves to be able to breed, because children had monetary value. At any rate, historians have debunked the myth that slaves were not treated cruelly and didn’t rebel. One could look up Loren Schweninger’s work for starters. Slaves fought. They ran away. They tried to escape their conditions. And they were punished for it, often brutally.
Another part of this myth embraces the idea that although NOW we know slavery is bad and all people are humans, we didn’t know this in 1800 or so. This is not true either, although the equality of blacks to whites as a general principle took a long, long, time to develop (and witnessed first the birth of scientific racism). As England outlawed slavery, norms were shifting long before the first shot of the Civil War.

And then finally we get the Civil War, not as a war about slavery, but over states rights. And yet, if you unpack each and every document of secession, they all explicitly mention the “states rights” to keep slavery legal as the cause of secession. It’s inconvenient for southern nationalists (people who see Southerners as an independent people who should have the right of self-determination) and defenders of the Confederate culture (and flags) to focus on slavery, so they argue against the evidence. The evidence, however, is clear - the civil war was about slavery. Alas, it is very hard to change people’s minds on articles of faith, no matter how overwhelming the evidence is.

One fascinating off-shoot of this is the question of black confederate soldiers. They didn’t exist. A Virginia textbook claimed they did until a professor noticed (and read that whole link; it’s riveting, and has lots of good links). What’s so interesting here is that there was a faction in the Confederacy that argued for freeing and arming slaves, as they knew they had a manpower issue. They were outvoted until the final year of the war when things were desperate, and even after a few slaves were enlisted, not a single one saw combat (here’s the book on the topic, by an Illinois professor).

And yet, despite all the evidence, the myth marches on. At the annual Conservative Political Action Committee conference last March, at a panel on minority outreach, an audience member reacted to the idea that Frederick Douglas had forgiven his former owner. “For what?” said Scott Terry, “for feeding him and housing him?” There was some applause and cheering. Terry later claimed to be a direct descendent of Jefferson Davis.

Paula Deen does not deserve to lose her job or sponsors for being nostalgic for the era of slavery and Jim Crow. The idea that she is being “lynched,” as claimed by the horror/romance author Anne Rice, or “crucified,” a word I am seeing all over the conservative blogosphere, seems to betray a certain lack of historical awareness on the part of the writers, or maybe they are just being ironic.  To me, it works like this: Deen said some disturbing things. She’s a public figure whose earning depend on people liking her. Now fewer people like her. Therefore, she’s worth less money as a spokeswoman or on TV. This is not about free speech or “lynch mobs,” but is the price of fame-based and personality-based merchandising.

But I refute the idea that her romanticized view of the south is harmless. From her visions of black men in bow ties serving whites, of  plantation culture, of the charm of southern life “After the Civil War. During the Civil War. Before the Civil War,” we go straight to Scott Terry, to the author of a Virginia textbook, to the very people who right now are undermining the voting rights act claiming that the blacks of yore were proud of their relationship with their paternal masters, to the people hanging confederate flags from courthouses. It’s not harmless when anyone holds these ideas and certainly not when it comes from a self-made icon of the South.

Anyway, if you’re not from the South, don’t feel so smug.  We all try smooth away embarrassing truths out of our histories. It’s the job of the historian and of the informed citizen to resist that impulse, because the abrasion of rough edges might, just might, keep us from replicating the sins of the past.